“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6
When my husband and I were parenting our children, we believed Proverbs 22:6 was a truth of God and not a probability. As I compared Scripture with Scripture, in that same chapter, God explained why the Proverbs were written.
“Have not I written to thee excellent things in counsels and knowledge, That I might make thee know the certainty of the words of truth; that thou mightest answer the words of truth to them that send unto thee?” Proverbs 22:20,21.
Twice, in that one passage, Proverbs are said to be the words of truth.
When my husband and I were parenting our children, I did not know that many Christians thought Proverbs 22:6 was a probability and not a truth of God.
I confess that I do not understand why some children rebel in good Christian families. It is a sad mystery to me. I am still praying for these wayward grown children. Looking at other Christian families and wondering, “why” is not the reason for this post. I don’t know why. I also don’t know how a child’s free will to choose right or wrong comes into play in Proverbs 22:6. That is a mystery to me also. What happened in other Christian families is not my purpose in writing this post. Telling you what to believe or not to believe about Proverbs 22:6 is not my purpose for writing this post.
- My purpose in writing this post is to tell you about my childlike faith in Proverbs 22:6 as being a truth of God and not a probability when we were parenting our children. I learned long ago that experience does not measure truth. For me, if God said it, that settled it.
- My purpose in writing this post is to explain how my confidence in the certainty of this Scripture kept me on my knees crying out daily to the Lord for wisdom as a parent. This Scripture gave me hope and I pray other young parents will seek wisdom from God for each of their children. I desire for other parents to have this same hope.
- My purpose in writing this post is to give God all the glory for what He has done!
Because of Proverbs 22:6, I would cry out, “Lord, You are omniscient, all knowing. I don’t know what to do as a parent. Your Word says for us to train up a child in the way he should go… I don’t know ‘the way each child should go,’ but You do. You have future plans for each of our children, which I as a parent know nothing about. That is why I desperately need Your wisdom today. I need You to direct me. Empty me of myself and fill me with Your wisdom, power, love and grace. Thank You for lending these precious children to us. Lord, may they grow up to love You with all their heart, soul, mind and strength. I am not training them up for here and now, but with eternity in mind; that day they stand before You, their Maker. May each child hear these words from You, ‘Well done thy good and faithful servant.’ I thank You, Father God for what You are doing in our lives and for what you will do in the future. I pray in the precious Name of Jesus, Amen.”
Our three children are grown now and married. Of course, they are not perfect, but they never out-right rebelled against us, praise the Lord. They were saved at a young age, love the Lord and are so very kind. Am I boasting in myself? No, I am nothing, nothing, nothing! God is everything, everything, everything! I am boasting in the LORD!
Proverbs 22:6 was my hope! Proverbs 22:6 was my confidence that God was working good out of my imperfect parenting. Proverbs 22:6 kept me in the Word of God searching for treasures and in prayer crying out for help and direction as a parent.
I made mistakes in parenting, and wish I could go back and change some things. I worried about what others thought about me too much. Yes, parents have peer pressure too. I added pages to the Bible and put those standards on our children. I was being like a Pharisee when I did that…ugh. I was not always on the same team as my husband, and would sometimes become child-centered. Oh, I wish I could go back and do better.
This very week I apologized to my daughter for these wrong-doings of mine as a parent and told her I wished I had done some things differently. She said she had a good childhood and thought we did well as parents. Aww…but still, I have some regrets that make me cry to this day.
While our children were growing up, Proverbs 22:6 was framed and on our wall. I considered Proverbs 22:6 personally written to me from God and claimed it as my parenting Scripture.
As a mother, I simply believed Proverbs 22:6 to be truth. It never ever occurred to me to do otherwise. Why? Because God said it in His Holy Word, and His Word is truth.