15 Ways to Teach Children to Honor Dad

“Honour thy father…” (Ephesians 6:2) This Scripture also comes with a reward, so we need to teach our children by our words and actions to honor daddy. The word, “honour” in the Greek means to prize or esteem as valuable.

Encourage children to give Dad “Hero Status”. It will pay off with your daughters in many ways…one way is when the young men come courting. Encouraging a son to make Dad his hero and to spend time with Dad will help him become well adjusted.

15 Ways to Teach Children to Honor Dad

  1. Make Daddy’s homecoming the highlight of the day. In our home, everyone ran to meet and greet Dad when he drove up the driveway. “Daddy’s Home” was so exciting, as everyone exclaimed those words at once…our dog even got in on the excitement of Dad’s homecoming.
  2. Uplift Daddy in the eyes of the children.  I think my husband is the smartest man in the world and our children thought so too.  We all still think he can do just about anything. Admire what Dad fixes around the house saying he is such a handy man. Stand behind Dad when he disciplines the children. I know of a mother who would make faces behind her husband’s back, because she thought he was too strict.  The child later rebelled.  Maybe that child needed a strict father because of his personality. We need to be careful as Moms and uplift Dad.
  3. Pray for Dad’s protection to and from work.  Everyday, our children prayed for their Dad to be protected while driving to and from work.  One day, Barry came home saying he should have been in a bad wreck, but a miracle happened, and he was spared.  I know God answered the sweet prayers of little children.
  4. Encourage sons to hang out daily with Dad as much as possible to learn skills.  Our grown son knows how to fix just about anything.  Sons will learn manliness hanging out with a man, their Dad.  Daughters need one-on-one time weekly with Dad too. Encouraging children to share in Dad’s interests, honors him. Our daughter would sometimes go hunting with her Dad, just to spend time with him and do what he enjoys.
  5. Teach children to say, “Thank you Daddy for working so hard.”When praying at lunch time, thank God for a Daddy who works hard so that Mom can stay home with the children and for us to have nice things like food, clothing and a roof over our heads. Throughout the day, mention how great it is how Dad is such a hard worker.  When our young children asked me why their Dad had to go to work, I would say, “He needs to make money, so we…”  I did not realize that for years our children thought their Dad went to work and literally made dollar bills and coins. 🙂
  6. Put a note in Dad’s lunch from you and include notes from the children.
  7. Teach children to be attentive to Dad’s needs. Give Dad his tea in the glass he likes.  Our daughters loved to bring Dad a tall glass of tea when he mowed grass on a hot summer day.
  8. Each week, plan one of Dad’s favorite meals and dessert and everyone help prepare it. It can be called Dad’s Favorite Meal Day!
  9. Make sure Dad has his own special chair at the dinner table. No one else is to sit in it. Try to plan peaceful meals at the dinner table without distractions…TV off.
  10. Teach children to not interrupt when Dad is talking to another adult.  If the child needs to talk with Dad, teach child to place a hand on him or say, “Excuse me” to get his attention.
  11. If you know Dad has had a tough day at work, treat him to a back-rub and/or foot massage when he gets home. After he sits or reclines in his favorite place, have children take his shoes off. Make him feel loved and relaxed.  You may want to make a “Welcome Home Daddy” banner. If Dad needs to take a short nap, teach children to not wake him. Wives know what their husband enjoys and what makes him smile. We need to teach our children what makes their Dad happy.
  12. Teach children how to ask Dad for help, advice and seek his counsel. It is good to tell them, “Go ask your Dad.  He is so wise.”
  13. Demonstrate honor by listening attentively to him and laughing at all his jokes so children will respect Dad.
  14. When Dad goes to work, wave to him until he is out of sight.  My hubby would put his arm out the window, weather permitting and wave too until he turned the corner.
  15. Give Dad a “Why I appreciate You” gift. One time, we purchased a small box at Hobby Lobby and decorated it like a treasure chest~”Dad is a Treasure.” We put all Dad’s favorite miniature candies in it.  Attached to each candy was a piece of paper which showed different ways Dad is valued. Each child can write on several. Mom can write what the child says if the child is too young.

These suggestions will show esteem for Dad and set a good tone in the home.

Please add to this list and share any other suggestions that teach children how to honor Dad. I love hearing from you.  🙂

A Double Heart Transplant

As we watched her growing weaker by the minute, we knew she would not live through the weekend.  I told my sister, “Jesus said in Matthew 18:19, … That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven‘ “

My sister and I prayed together, begging God to heal our mother immediately with a successful heart transplant.  The phone rang! The unbelievable had happened.  A heart was being flown into the New Orleans hospital for our mother.  God had answered our prayers.  The blood type matched perfectly with Mother’s blood type, and the surgery was a success! Praise God!

My mother was given a second chance to live.  This was very important, because if Mother had died that weekend, I would have never seen my mother again when I got to Heaven.  Mother was not saved when she received her heart transplant.  The Lord is… longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. (II Peter 3:9b)

Several years later I received an important phone call from my mother, telling me she was trying to understand how to be saved. Mom said that she had all the information I had given her over the years on the table.  She asked me to come that minute.  I dropped everything, grabbed my Bible and drove to my mother’s house, praying with my sister the entire way there. I had prayed for the salvation of my parents for over 30 years.

I explained to Mother how Jesus Christ came to this earth for the sole purpose of dying to save her from her sins.  Jesus Christ has the perfect blood type.  My mother got on her knees, confessed her sins and trusted Jesus Christ as her personal Saviour.  I witnessed two wonderful, glorious miracles of God: a double heart transplant! A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh.  (Ezekiel 36:26)

You too can know 100% for sure without a doubt that you can go to heaven.

You’re not here by accident. God loves you. He wants you to have a personal relationship with Him through Jesus, His Son. There is just one thing that separates you from God. That one thing is sin.

The Bible describes sin in many ways. Most simply, sin is our failure to measure up to God’s holiness and His righteous standards. We sin by things we do, choices we make, attitudes we show, and thoughts we entertain. We also sin when we fail to do right things. The Bible affirms our own experience – “there is none righteous, no not one.” No matter how good we try to be, none of us do right things all the time.

People tend to divide themselves into groups – good people and bad people. But God says that every person who has ever lived is a sinner, and that any sin separates us from God. No matter how we might classify ourselves, this includes you and me. We are all sinners.

For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” Romans 3:23

Many people are confused about the way to God. Some think they will be punished or rewarded according to how good they are. Some think they should make things right in their lives before they try to come to God. Others find it hard to understand how Jesus could love them when other people don’t seem to. But I have great news for you! God DOES love you! More than you can ever imagine! And there’s nothing you can do to make Him stop! Yes, our sins demand punishment – the punishment of death and separation from God. But, because of His great love, God sent His only Son Jesus to die for our sins.

But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8

For you to come to God you have to get rid of your sin problem. But, in our own strength, not one of us can do this! You can’t make yourself right with God by being a better person. Only God can rescue us from our sins. He is willing to do this, not because of anything you can offer Him, but JUST BECAUSE HE LOVES YOU!

Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us.” Titus 3:5

It’s God’s grace that allows you to come to Him – not your efforts to “clean up your life” or work your way to Heaven. You can’t earn it. It’s a free gift.

For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” Ephesians 2:8-9

For you to come to God, the penalty for your sin must be paid. God’s gift to you is His son, Jesus, who paid the debt for you when He died on the Cross.

For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. Romans 6:23

Jesus paid the price for your sin and mine by giving His life on a cross at a place called Calvary, just outside of the city walls of Jerusalem in ancient Israel. God brought Jesus back from the dead. He provided the way for you to have a personal relationship with Him through Jesus. When we realize how deeply our sin grieves the heart of God and how desperately we need a Savior, we are ready to receive God’s offer of salvation. To admit we are sinners, means turning away from our sin and selfishness and turning to follow Jesus. The Bible word for this is “repentance” – to change our thinking about how grievous sin is, so our thinking is in line with God’s.

All that’s left for you to do is to accept the gift that Jesus is holding out for you right now.

That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. Romans 10:9-10

God says that if you believe in His son, Jesus, you can live forever with Him in glory.

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 3:16

Are you ready to accept the gift of eternal life that Jesus is offering you right now?  This commitment involves:

I acknowledge I am a sinner in need of a Savior – this is to repent or turn away from sin

I believe in my heart that God raised Jesus from the dead – this is to trust that Jesus paid the full penalty for my sins

I confess Jesus as my Lord and my God – this is to surrender control of my life to Jesus

I receive Jesus as my Savior forever – this is to accept that God has done for me and in me what He promised

If it is your sincere desire to receive Jesus into your heart as your personal Lord and Savior, then talk to God from your heart:

Here’s a Suggested Prayer. The prayer does not save, but the Person of the prayer, Jesus saves:

“Lord Jesus, I know that I am a sinner and I do not deserve eternal life. But, I believe You died and rose from the grave to make me a new creation and to prepare me to dwell in your presence forever. Jesus, come into my life, take control of my life, forgive my sins and save me. I am now placing my trust in You alone for my salvation and I accept your free gift of eternal life.”

If you trusted Jesus to save you, please write me, because I would like to rejoice with you!

Hospitality Can Be Fun…And Funny

Fifteen people were coming to dinner at our home; three pastors, three pastor’s wives plus their children.  All of the dinner guests liked Cajun food, so I was going to cook my specialty, crawfish etouffee.  My husband thinks I cook the best crawfish etouffee in the world. Soon, I will include my recipe in this blog for all of you Cajun food lovers.  The secret is in the roux.

Our son and daughters got involved with hospitality and everyone helped with the different parts of the huge meal when we had guests over for dinner. We worked hard for two days preparing the food and cleaning the house. The children and I had a good time together in the kitchen. We think our crawfish etouffee tastes better when we make it a day ahead of time and allow the flavors to blend. That was exactly what I did the night before our guest were to arrive. My huge pot of crawfish etouffee was the best ever.  I was so proud of it.  I put the top on the large pot and put it in the refrigerator.

The evening to show hospitality arrived.  Our menu was crawfish etouffee over rice, fruit salad, green bean casserole, corn, french bread and seven layer dessert. Two hours before the guests arrived, I decided to start warming up the huge pot of crawfish etouffee that I thought I had cooked to perfection.

The pot was on the stove top. I then decided to taste a cold spoonful of the delicious crawfish etoufee.  Eww! I could not believe my mouth.  I spewed the mouthful of crawfish etouffee into the sink. I have never done anything like that before.  I am very ladylike, but the crawfish etouffee tasted disgustingly horrible, so out of my mouth it went as fast as possible.  My ever so positive daughter, Kristen, said, “Mom, I am sure it tastes good.”  I gave ladylike Kristen a spoonful, and she followed in her mother’s footsteps and quickly spewed it into the sink too.

Kristen and I looked at each other both surprised and wondered what we were going to do. I realized what had happened. My husband had told me before to never place a lid on hot food and put it in the refrigerator.  The truth be known, I had placed hot food in the refrigerator before and nothing had happened, but this time the huge pot of crawfish etouffee soured.  It was so disgusting; our cats even turned up their noses at the etouffee as we dumped the whole sour concoction out.  Guests would be arriving in 1 ½ hours.  What were we to do now? I thought carry-out pizza was going to be the evening meal instead of what the guests were expecting.

I think my husband is the smartest man in the world, so I gave him a call at work.  It did not take him long to realize I was frantic. Calm and peaceful, I was not. My husband did not even fuss at me for doing what he told me not to do.  He knew I had learned my lesson the hard way, and he felt sorry for me.  Then, he suggested for me to go to the grocery store, buy all the ingredients and remake the crawfish etouffee.  I did that very thing! One and one half hours later, the doorbell rang. I (we) had finished the crawfish etouffee in the nick of time. The crawfish etouffee was not not my best batch, the meal turned out to be super expensive, but we had something to eat besides pizza, so I was relieved.

I was also exhausted when the guests arrived. We all kept our little crawfish etouffee escapade a secret while everyone enjoyed the meal.  We then went to church right after eating, so we could hear the visiting Pastor preach. After the service was over, the visiting Pastor told me that the meal I cooked that night was phenomenal.  I thought to myself, “You have no idea how phenomenal the meal really was!” Then I started laughing, because I pictured myself running wildly down the grocery aisle snatching ingredients for the etouffee.  Then I pictured myself telling our children while handing them the ingredients, “Chop, chop, chop! Faster, faster, faster!”  You know how you can become delirious after being so tired and everything all of a sudden becomes comical?  As I was laughing, the visiting pastor looked at me in an inquisitive way. I waited two years before I told him the story.

Enjoy hospitality as a family and you will have fond family memories, maybe even comical ones. Hospitality can be both fun and funny.

How to Enjoy Life’s Journey

“Are we almost there?”

In life’s journey we sometimes wish our motherhood years away.  We may wish our children’s childhood years away because of the difficulties in certain stages of their lives.  We must realize at each stage of life, there are going to be difficulties.  We must accept the difficulties and enjoy the good in each stage of life. When we start wishing years away thinking it is going to be easier or better, we miss out on treasured moments in the journey of life:

  • If only my child were out of the diaper stage.
  • If only my child were not so dependent on me.
  • If only I did not have to hear the word, “Mama” all day long.
  • If only my child could read, homeschooling would be easier.
  • If only my child were just a little older, he could be so much more help to me.

If only….we were “there”.  We spend our time wishing away life’s precious moments. The years flee fast enough on their own without us wishing them away.

When I get tired, I need to be careful that I do not become grumpy, negative, or impatient along the journey of life.  We are all on a life journey to heaven. Do you ever grow tired and weary along the journey to heaven and miss out on the happiness that is in the moment?

Right now, go on a “Treasure Moment Hunt“. Look and find the treasured moments in life. Take note of them. They are there. You are surrounded by treasured moments.

sweet sugarsDon’t get so busy or tired that you forget to treasure:

  • The baby, cooing and making sweet eyes. It won’t last long.
  • The 1 year old closing her eyes tight thinking you can’t see her.
  • The 2 year old’s sweet sugars.
  • The 3 year old crying for Mama’s kisses to make his scraped knee all better.
  • The beaming face of the 4 year old giving Mama an “I Love You” crayon picture.
  • The 5 year old putting black olives on all her fingers tips. Our daughter, Kristen loved to eat black olives… and to wear them too. We were at the park yesterday with Bryantour grandchildren. Our  6 year old grandson, Bryant, politely introduced himself to a little girl. “Hi, my name is Bryant, but you can call me, Peter.” Where do they come up with such cuteness? God gives us treasured moments with our children (and grandchildren) so we will enjoy the journey.

Treasure the moments and take note of all the adorable things your children and grandchildren say and do. Each stage of your child’s life has it’s wonders, its precious moments that we don’t want to lose. Each stage of life has it’s advantages plus its own sets of difficulties. Accept the difficulties and never wish any stage of life away by thinking I can’t wait until we are “there”.

Sometimes, we have trials along the way in our journey. I spent much of my Treasured Moment Huntchildbearing years in bed trying to prevent miscarriages.  I actually lost count of my miscarriages. Even during those difficult times, there were sweet treasured moments to embrace. I just had to take my focus off of my problems and go on a “Treasured Moment Hunt” while in my tough situation. The treasure moments were there for me. I had to find them.

Jesus has promised you and me: “I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.”  John 10:10

Jesus died to not only give me eternal life; Jesus died to give me an incredibly wonderful abundant life.  God wants us to enjoy the trip. He wants us to daily go on a “Treasure Moment Hunt.”  Abundant life was promised to each of us for the journey; for the here and now.  God promises us an abundant life which is a life exceedingly beyond measure, overflowing with joy and blessings.

Abundant life is a life that others without Christ cannot even wrap their minds around.  In the middle of a trial and tribulation, those who live an abundant life can rejoice knowing God is working.  Going through a trial puts a spotlight on a Christian. The world takes note and watches us because we are amazing to them.  They don’t understand the miracle of Jesus Christ living in and through the believer. They don’t understand the abundant life.

Jesus died to give you and me a life to be enjoyed as we journey to heaven.  Let us make a decision today to love life.  Let us make a decision today to hunt for the treasured moments in life. God wants us to be joyful.  Let us make the most of today and not get frustrated.

The journey God has planned for you today is filled with blessings He has sent just for you. Look for His blessings in the mundane things you do, and let us not forget to thank Him.  If we never had stormy weather, would we appreciate the nice weather?  If we were never sick, would we appreciate our health?  If it were not for the bad days in life, would we so appreciate the good days?

We will miss the blessings of today if our concentration is, “Are we almost there?” Instead, take note of this moment right now. Take note of the treasured moments hidden in the day. To love the journey, you must know God paints the gorgeous sunrise and sunset just for you.  God sprinkles the fragrance in the rose just for you.  God sends the rain, so there will be growth, fruit, and beauty just for you. Those loved ones in your life are Treasures God has given you to enjoy.

Look for the Lord’s presents He has given to you today, unwrap them, and thank Him.  Remember His presence within you, walk with Him and talk to Him.  Live today to its fullest by choosing to be full of joy this very moment.  Enjoy the journey.  The destination will be here soon enough. Abundant Life is the good life.

What are some of your Treasured Moments in life? Who will be the first to share? : )

Family Traditions

Family Traditions make fond family memories to treasure for a lifetime.

A Fun Book: Family Traditions and Memories by Emilie Barnes. All of Mrs. Barnes’ “15 Minute Books” were on our bookshelf, until I passed them on to the next generation.

These are some categories of Family Traditions:

  1. Daily Traditions
  2. Weekend Traditions
  3. Vacation Traditions
  4. Holiday and Birthday Traditions

I wanted to share some of our Daily, Weekend and Vacation Family traditions.

 Our Daily Family Traditions:

I grew up in a family of seven.  My parents had the family tradition of eating meals at the table. The TV was turned off. Mom made the prettiest meal presentations just for us.  Wanting to continue this tradition, our family ate meals together at the table, the TV was off and pleasant conversation was encouraged. When our daughters were older, we all worked hard on the pretty meal presentation angle when showing hospitality. Kristen and Melinda even learned fancy napkin folding.

Our family also had this fun daily tradition:  When Barry drove in from work, the children and I excitedly announced, “Daddy’s home!”  Then the race was on (including the dog) to see who could get to Barry’s truck first.  Dad was showered with hugs and kisses. At that moment, Barry knew he was the most important man in the world to us all.

One day when Barry drove up, I got so excited that I spilled the boiling contents of a pot onto my foot.  That day, I was the one who stole the show for attention, and ended up at the doctor’s office.  After a couple of years, I did not even have a scar. I had forgotten about that incident until now. So, the moral of that story is to be very careful if you are cooking and your family has the “Daddy’s Home” tradition.

Our Weekend Traditions:

When our children were younger, our family had the tradition of playing at the park on pretty weekends.  On most Friday nights, we planned an in-home family movie night with a fun snack.

Our Vacation Traditions:

Our family went to an encouraging homeschool conference while enjoying sightseeing in the mountains each year. A mission trip was usually planned too. We went tent camping in the Spring and Fall.  Tent camping makes for some fond memories and crazy stories. Biking and Hiking were favorite family pastimes. Having access to a bike path across the street from our home, Barry and I still go biking regularly.

Birthday and Holiday Traditions are favorite family memories, and I will include them in a later post.

The top right photo: Our children roasting marshmallows in our fireplace at home. Camping and S’mores went together; our fireplace and S’mores went together too.

I would enjoy reading about your family traditions. Would anyone like to share? 🙂