Suffering Miscarriages: Learning to See the Hand of God

My Miscarriages:  How I Am Learning to See the Hand Of God When I Suffer!

I don’t like to think about suffering, because it is an unpleasant thought, but the truth is:

Suffering is one thing we all have in common.

Suffering hits each of us in different ways at different times.

Have you ever asked the question, “Why God?”  I have! It is alright to ask God why, but it is not alright to demand an answer from God.

In my childbearing years, 7 of our 10 children died in the womb.  I was in the 2nd trimester with two of those children, and spent over a year of my life in bed trying to protect them.  Going to bed for a long time is no picnic for a mother when she already has little children.

When I was expecting our son, Brandon, my mother graciously helped me for four months.  Our 2 year old daughter, Kristen started calling my mother, “Mama”, because Kristen couldn’t understand why I was just lying there. Plus, the pregnancy was traumatic for me. I was so grateful to God when our son, Brandon was born.

After I had several miscarriages, a mother I had just met who had a very large family, asked me how many children I had.  When my answer was, “Three”, her reply was, “Only three?”  Oops, a little slip up.  This mother had no idea what I had suffered, but I smiled at her and just nodded yes.

When someone says something that is painful adding to one’s suffering, it’s helpful for me to remember:

1.  Everyone is going through something.

2.  Things may not be as they appear, so try not to jump to conclusions.

3.  Don’t take things personal.  Most people are not meaning any harm.

4. People who are hurting inside, sometimes unintentionally hurt others.

5. I have unintentionally said things that have hurt others, so I need to give them a break.

OK, I got off on a rabbit trail, but maybe someone needed to read what to do when hurtful words head their way.

Back to: Learning to see the Hand of God in suffering:

1 Peter 5:10 “But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you.”

  1. Believers as well as non-believers will suffer on this earth because of the “Fall” in Genesis 3.
  2. For the believer, in the scheme of Eternity, suffering is temporary.
  3. God will strengthen the believer during times of suffering.
  4. God will give the needed grace for the believer as he goes through the suffering.
  5. The effect of suffering is the eternal glory of God.
  6. God has guaranteed ultimate perfection for every believer.
  7. God will establish the believer. Greek meaning is “God will turn us firmly in the right direction”.
  8. God will settle the believer. We become a better person from going through the suffering.

How I saw the Hand of God When I suffered Miscarriages:

  1. I have a physical problem. My doctor was amazed I could even have a baby, so I am grateful for our 3 children that made it.
  2. I understand the suffering other mothers go through when they lose a child. (2 Cor. 1:4)
  3. Our 3 children are in awe and feel honored they were spared and given life on this earth.
  4. I now picture our 7 children lining the streets of gold “cheering me on” when I get to heaven.
  5. If everything were a bed of roses here on earth, I would not look forward to my real home, Heaven.

What has God shown you in your suffering?

Have you seen the hand of God? I pray for all the precious ladies reading Heaven bound Homemaker.  Dear sister in Christ, when you go through a time of suffering, May you Look for His Hand and Find It. His Merciful Hand will hold you up!

Why Jesus Thinks Homemaking Is Important

Recently, I wrote a post, “What? There Is a King in My Kid? The Scripture  was 1 Sam. 16:11.  “And Samuel said unto Jesse, Are here all thy children? And he said, There remaineth yet the youngest, and, behold, he keepeth the sheep…”

“Keeping the sheep” was not a job that was held in high esteem. Sometimes I have felt like people look down on the job of homemaking.  Have you felt that way?  I wonder if that is the reason so many mothers have ended up in the workforce.  The truth is, the mother who stays home with her children may not receive money, but her reward will be much greater than a paycheck.  The stay at home mother has one of the hardest jobs in the world, but one of the most fulfilling jobs in the world.

The day our first child was born was the day I became a full time homemaker.  It was a happy day for me!

Why does Jesus think Homemaking is an important job?

Let us read, Luke 22:24-27 to find out what is important to Jesus.  Jesus said that true greatness is found in humble service.  Homemakers are in the blessed role of servants, so true greatness is found in the humble service of the homemaker.  Wiping running noses, cleaning toilets, cooking meals, running a household… may seem to go unnoticed by those the homemaker is serving, but Jesus rewards humble service.  It may seem mundane doing the same thing day after day, but Jesus said that your humble service is true greatness.. The humble servant does not seek glory, but desires the one she is serving to get the glory.

The world may think the homemaker has an insignificant job, but what matters is what Jesus thinks.  The homemaker’s position of serving is a position of honor. Homemaking is important because it is lasting and counts for eternity. Smile and have a blessed day serving cheerfully as unto the Lord!

“My mother was the most beautiful woman I ever saw. All I am I owe to my mother. I attribute all my success in life to the moral, intellectual and physical education I received from her.” George Washington

Photo- Kristen, Brandon and Melinda cooking ~ I taught our children at an early age to cook and do chores. I believe our children turned out to be better cooks and harder workers than their teacher 🙂

5 Daily Household Routines To Make The Home Manageable

Make the bed~2 minutes

Work like Martha of the Bible and Sing yourself Merry as you do these 5 household routines daily. Encourage family members to participate to help make the home much more manageable.

The first two household routines done by 1 person to 1 bedroom and 1 bathroom will take only 5 minutes. You will not regret taking this tiny increment of time to make the bedroom and bathroom look tidy and sparkly.

1.  Bedrooms~Everyone Makes their own Bed first thing in the morning. Bedrooms will have an instant face lift when the bed is made. The results will make the homemaker feel lifted too. Time~2 minutes

2. Bathrooms~Wipe bathroom counter and sink  including faucets before leaving the bathroom each morning by using wet wipes. I keep a dispenser in each bathroom. Quickly wipe around other areas of the bathroom for that clean feel. I even wipe the baseboards some mornings. Time~3 minutes

3. Kitchen~ Clean as you cook. Instead of piling dishes till the end, wash the dishes as you go or put them in the dishwasher. Sweep kitchen after last meal of the day.

4. All rooms~ Manage clutter daily. Every item needs to have a place; its own home within the home. Inspect each room, and think, “Is everything in its place?” Quickly put everything in its place. Each family member must cooperate. Teach children: When you take something out, you put it back.

5. Mail~ Manage paper. Sort mail as soon as you bring it into the home. Handle mail once. Keep a trash can near your sorting area for junk mail. Drop other mail into one of three in-boxes: personal, bills, catalogs and filing. Don’t pile paper; file paper.

If we allow just 1 piece of mail to pile up each  day, what is just one piece of mail anyway? It’s so small! By the end of the month, we will have 30 pieces of mail piled up. By the end of the year, we will have 365 pieces of mail piled up. By the end of two years, we will have 730 pieces~ okay, that does it! This means war on paper clutter. Today is “clutters last stand.”

Why I am Grateful I live in the USA

Last night I briefly shared my testimony of salvation at church in a small group.  A lady from another country, Lou (name changed) said to me, “I have the same testimony as you.  While I was at the University, a girl from Campus Crusade for Christ shared with me a tract called the 4 Spiritual Laws.  I trusted Jesus Christ to save me.  I went to the ‘Underground Church’ because Christians are persecuted.”

I was in awe at Lou’s bravery in risking so much by going to an Underground Church.  I thought about how grateful I am to live in the USA.  Every Sunday, I have the freedom to go to any church I desire.  In the USA, I do not have to fear that government authorities armed with machine guns may raid my church and throw the people attending into prison.

People who live in countries that do not allow freedom of religion risk their lives going to an Underground Church.  These believers are persecuted for Christ.  In Lou’s closed country, people may be beaten for going to an underground church, their belongings confiscated, they may be thrown into awful prisons, or they may mysteriously “disappear.”  Do you know what the first thing believers in closed countries ask other Christians to do for them?  Pray!

Consider: Would you or I risk our lives going to an Underground Church to meet together with believers and to hear preaching from God’s Word?  What if our country, the USA became a closed country that did not allow religious freedom anymore? Would there be enough evidence within our homes and in our lives to convict us for being a Christian?

Do you know what the second thing that believers in closed countries ask Christians to do for them? Send Bibles.  Many Christians in closed countries do not own a Bible.  Some may have pieces of pages of the Bible.  These scraps of the Bible are treated  more precious than gold as they share them with the believers of the Underground Church.  How often do we as Christians take our Bible for granted?  Do we daily read God’s love letter written to each of us?  Again, I am grateful that I live in a country where I have the unrestricted freedom to own a Bible.

Lou came to the USA several years ago with her husband and now has two young children.  In Lou’s former country, she might have been forced to abort one of her children.  In that country, value is not placed on a baby’s life, especially a female child.

The year I graduated from high school, the tragic law was put into effect in the USA in which abortion became legal.  It is still unbelievable to me!  The laws of our great country are supposed to protect lives, but babies within the womb are not protected.  I cry thinking about these precious babies not given a chance to live. After the grievous law passed, I volunteered in the 1980’s to encourage young unwed girls, who were expecting babies to give their babies up for adoption rather than take the lives of their babies.  With a pro-life film called Silent Scream, the volunteers proved to these young girls that their baby was alive in the womb and could feel pain.  Some girls made the wonderful decision to trust Jesus to save them. Some decided to carry their baby to full term and then gave their baby up for adoption.

A government law allowing the killing of babies grieves God, Who created each baby with such tender loving care.  Our nation is on a downhill spiral because of such wickedness as abortion. Our nation needs healing.  Christians can make a difference when they vote wisely.  What about the upcoming election?  It is quite clear which candidates devalue the lives of babies and those who are pro-life.

I believe the USA is the greatest country on the earth.  Our country is losing its greatness by allowing wickedness to become lawful.  What about marriage?  Are we voting for leaders who uphold the Biblical standard of marriage defined as the union of one man and one woman?  God created Eve for Adam, not Steve for Adam.  (Genesis 2:22-24)  The election of moral leaders who show discretion and integrity is crucial.  Are we doing our part?

Let us be careful about believing the liberal media who are not sympathetic to Biblical principles or to the candidates who stand for them.  We need to elect the candidates who are sympathetic towards Israel. God’s blessing will be upon our country if our country supports Israel. On the other hand, God will curse our country if our country does not help Israel. “And I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed.” Genesis 12:3

I am thankful for our great country allowing me the freedom to vote.  I am grateful for the freedom to vote for the best candidates to lead our country. God has blessed America!  It is obvious our country is spiraling downward and Christians must stand in the gap by praying and by voting wisely. Please God, heal our great land, the United States of America for our children and grandchildren!

From God: “If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.” (2 Chronicles 7:14)


The Secret To Happiness

Did you know the secret to happiness is found in Acts 26:2? I think myself happy…”  In Acts 26:2, Paul was falsely accused and a prisoner in Rome.

Have you ever been falsely accused? Most people have at one time or another. I have been falsely accused, but, at first, I failed to “think myself happy.”  In fact, I “thought myself angry” for quite some time. If I would have continued on that path of “thinking myself angry” over the hurtful false accusation, I would now be a bitter person. Thankfully, I forgave and “thought myself happy.” Even though Paul was not in a happy circumstance, Paul knew the secret to his own personal happiness was to “think himself happy.” Happiness is a choice.

“For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…” We become what we think. If we think on unhappy thoughts, we will become an unhappy person. If we think on hurtful things that have happened to us, we will become a bitter person. If we think on happy, grateful, thankful thoughts, we will become a happy, grateful, thankful person.

The secret to happiness is:

Happiness is not sought; “happiness is thought.” 

We don’t need to search for happiness; we can find happiness within. “What I think on when I am alone, that alone is what I am.” Having some “thought check points” along the day where you and I stop to take inventory of our thoughts is helpful to begin a path of happy thinking.  Stop and check: Are my thoughts grumbly hateful or are my thoughts humbly grateful? Confess and surrender!

Are you happy doing housework?  Housework is not my favorite thing to do. It seems I clean and then I have to clean again. It is never ending, but I do enjoy a clean, organized, uncluttered home. I confess that I have wasted precious time having a grumpy attitude about cleaning. I have dreamed of merry maids appearing like little fairies magically transforming my home. Then I could do the things I enjoy. With a one income family, that dream has never happened. Here is a trick to being a Martha with a Merry heart: Sing (or hum) hymns and praise songs to the Lord while you work. Your family will be uplifted too as you work and worship.  I don’t have a beautiful singing voice like the rest of my family members, but I can tell they enjoy it when I sing while working. Look forward to the results of your labor and to a treat for a job well done. If we have to do something we don’t enjoy, might as well be happy instead of grumpy. Then we will be on our way to having better character while “thinking ourselves happy.”

Check out Acts 16:25. If Paul and Silas could sing while in prison, we can sing when we don’t feel like singing too. The prison they were in was absolutely unbearable compared to prisons of today. When a person sings in adversity, he has greatness within his soul and it spreads to others.  What happened when Paul and Silas sang and prayed in prison?  The people in the prison took notice and God worked in the salvation of souls. Do you have adversity in your life?  Have hope. With God, we can “think ourselves happy” in spite of our circumstances.

Look at Matthew 26:30. The Lord sang in the shadow of the cruel cross. He knew He was about to go to the cross and be forsaken by His Father. When I am having a not-so-good day, I can “think myself happy” when I think about the Lord saving me from my sins and giving me life everlasting.

Psalm 40:2 says that God brought each of us out of the horrible pit, set our feet upon a rock and established our goings.  God gave us a new life in Him. Where would I be today without the Lord’s saving grace? Psalm 40:3 “And he hath put a new song in my mouth, even praise unto our God: many shall see it, and fear, and shall trust in the LORD.”  Wow! Let us meditate on this Scripture!

When God saved you and me, not only does our body now house the Holy Spirit, God put a new song of praise within each of our mouths. We each have our own unique testimony that glorifies the Lord.  The best witness to the lost is a happy Christian. We are God’s billboard to a lost and dying world. We are an incredible witness to our children when we are happy. Others shall see the song the Lord has put in our mouth and they will trust in Him. Isn’t that awesome?

To be happy, purpose to smile even when you don’t feel like smiling. Smile when you do housework, smile when you cook and smile when you are alone.  The most inexpensive facelift is a smile.  A smile releases feel good chemicals. Smile by faith. I am smiling as I write this.  No, things are not perfect in my life, but I can smile because I know that in Christ, I am more than a conqueror. No one can steal my joy unless I allow it. Right now, Smile and Sing the song that God has put within you. Right now, Think yourself happy!

The photos are smiles we want to send to you from some of our family.

The happiest day of my life was when God saved me at age 20. A college girl named Susan shared with me how I can know for sure I was going to heaven. I trusted Jesus to save me from my sins and He gloriously did! Big Smile 🙂

Would anyone like to share their testimony? Sharing ones testimony blesses everyone including God. Our testimony is a song God gives each of us to sing to others. When I am at my lowest, I think about the happiest day of my life, the day God saved me. Then, God lifts me up, because I can “think myself happy.”