My Miscarriages: How I Am Learning to See the Hand Of God When I Suffer!
I don’t like to think about suffering, because it is an unpleasant thought, but the truth is:
Suffering is one thing we all have in common.
Suffering hits each of us in different ways at different times.
Have you ever asked the question, “Why God?” I have! It is alright to ask God why, but it is not alright to demand an answer from God.
In my childbearing years, 7 of our 10 children died in the womb. I was in the 2nd trimester with two of those children, and spent over a year of my life in bed trying to protect them. Going to bed for a long time is no picnic for a mother when she already has little children.
When I was expecting our son, Brandon, my mother graciously helped me for four months. Our 2 year old daughter, Kristen started calling my mother, “Mama”, because Kristen couldn’t understand why I was just lying there. Plus, the pregnancy was traumatic for me. I was so grateful to God when our son, Brandon was born.
After I had several miscarriages, a mother I had just met who had a very large family, asked me how many children I had. When my answer was, “Three”, her reply was, “Only three?” Oops, a little slip up. This mother had no idea what I had suffered, but I smiled at her and just nodded yes.
When someone says something that is painful adding to one’s suffering, it’s helpful for me to remember:
1. Everyone is going through something.
2. Things may not be as they appear, so try not to jump to conclusions.
3. Don’t take things personal. Most people are not meaning any harm.
4. People who are hurting inside, sometimes unintentionally hurt others.
5. I have unintentionally said things that have hurt others, so I need to give them a break.
OK, I got off on a rabbit trail, but maybe someone needed to read what to do when hurtful words head their way.
Back to: Learning to see the Hand of God in suffering:
1 Peter 5:10 “But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you.”
- Believers as well as non-believers will suffer on this earth because of the “Fall” in Genesis 3.
- For the believer, in the scheme of Eternity, suffering is temporary.
- God will strengthen the believer during times of suffering.
- God will give the needed grace for the believer as he goes through the suffering.
- The effect of suffering is the eternal glory of God.
- God has guaranteed ultimate perfection for every believer.
- God will establish the believer. Greek meaning is “God will turn us firmly in the right direction”.
- God will settle the believer. We become a better person from going through the suffering.
- I have a physical problem. My doctor was amazed I could even have a baby, so I am grateful for our 3 children that made it.
- I understand the suffering other mothers go through when they lose a child. (2 Cor. 1:4)
- Our 3 children are in awe and feel honored they were spared and given life on this earth.
- I now picture our 7 children lining the streets of gold “cheering me on” when I get to heaven.
- If everything were a bed of roses here on earth, I would not look forward to my real home, Heaven.
What has God shown you in your suffering?
Have you seen the hand of God? I pray for all the precious ladies reading Heaven bound Homemaker. Dear sister in Christ, when you go through a time of suffering, May you Look for His Hand and Find It. His Merciful Hand will hold you up!