In the photo, I am styling my daughter’s hair on her wedding day. A wedding day is a happy day!
The Word of God is my mirror that lets me see myself. When I read God’s Word, I see myself falling very short of God’s holiness. I have the desire to be holy as He is holy. Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. Psalm 51:10
My marriage is also my mirror that lets me see myself. I never realized how selfish I was until I got married. Have you learned new things about yourself after getting married?
Years ago, I was visiting a friend who said with frustration, “I would be a good Christian, if it were not for my family!”
We laughed together as she realized what she was saying. Seriously though, have we ever thought something similar to this?
In my Quiet Time today, I read these profound words of Jesus: “And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?” Matthew 19:5
For what cause? The preceding Scripture has the answer; “he which made them at the beginning made them male and female.”
God’s plan from the beginning: 1 man + 1 woman = 1 Marriage for a lifetime!
Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:6
We must commit our marriage to God. You might say, “I did this already.” Well, today, let us recommit our marriage to God. We need to take our marriage vows to the ultimate extreme by taking them seriously! Wedding vows are the greatest promises to God we make! Let us not only commit our marriage to God, let us commit ourselves to our marriage.
Mirror mirror on the wall…It is easy to ignore our own reflection in the mirror of marriage and blame our husband.
It is easy to say, “Well, if he wouldn’t ________, then I wouldn’t ________.”
A long time ago, a movie’s famous line was, “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” What? Amazing how such worldly words became famous. I think we can say in truth that “Pride means never having to say you’re sorry.”
In a marriage, “Love means having to say you’re sorry…over and over again!”
Both spouses need to learn these hard to say, but important words: “I was wrong for ___________ and I am sorry. Will you forgive me?”
I will be honest with you. I had to ask my husband for forgiveness today. I am writing this post for myself too. My preacher says, “I am preaching with one finger pointing at you, but with most fingers pointing back at me.” My marriage is my mirror. Your marriage is your mirror. What is our marriage mirror reflecting?
I wanted to share my Bible notes with you. These notes spoke to my heart, so maybe someone reading this post will be helped too. This is why I write: If I can be of any help to one person, it is worth it. I pray abundant blessings to each of you reading these words. You may think you are just an ordinary person with just an ordinary marriage. God wants to use the ordinary for His good purpose. God transforms lives and marriages.
1. Keep a humble heart to stay sweet in your marriage. Hardness is never attractive.
2. Commit to growing together in your relationship with God. Pray together, minister together, go to church together and laugh together. Yes, good-hearted laughter is a gift to us from God.
3. Commit to treating each other with respect and affection. One good marriage consists of two forgivers. Both my husband and I keep short accounts as we both seek forgiveness from one another when offended.
If our husband is at fault, two wrongs don’t make a right. How many times should we forgive our husband? How many times has God forgiven you and me? How many times has God been patient, merciful and tender towards you and me? That is the number of times we forgive our husband.
4. Marriage was made to compliment each other; not duplicate each other. If changes need to be made in your spouse, instead of trying to change him by your own means (and look mean in his eyes), pray for God to make the necessary changes in your spouse.
5. God’s original plan was that 2 lives merge together to become 1. Husbands and wives do not live separate lives.
6. Marriage does not cause my problems. Marriage, like a mirror, reveals the real “me.”
If you see an ugly reflection in your mirror of marriage that needs His healing touch, run to God to get encouraged, instead of from Him. “I cried unto the LORD with my voice, and he heard me out of his holy hill. Selah.” Psalm 3:4
God is for marriage! God invented marriage, so tell Him all about your reflection in the marriage mirror. You will get a God hug, because He loves you with an everlasting love! After you tell the Lord all about it, remember to forgive yourself too! Live guilt free. What does God say about your confessed sin? “I remember no more.” Hebrews 8:12. Isn’t that beautiful? God does not forget our sin, He chooses to remember our sin no more.
It’s a new day! Let us make the most of it! Mirror mirror on the wall, this marriage is the best of all.