When a Man Loves a Woman

Years ago, at a grocery store in Louisiana, Percy Sledge was checking out in front of me. Percy Sledge sang the 1966 hit song, “When a Man Loves a Woman.” He was smiling and very friendly, chatting with those around him. I wished I had asked Percy Sledge to sing a few lines from his #1 hit song, but I didn’t think of that at the time. I bet he would have done it.

The first few lines of the song goes like this:

When a man loves a woman
recordCan’t keep his mind on nothing else
He’ll trade the world
For the good thing he’s found
If she’s bad he can’t see it
She can do no wrong…


Pastor Warren Johnson preached a good sermon on the Bible story of Jacob and his love for Rachel. I got the idea for this post from his sermon.

The Bible story of Jacob and Rachel is what I would term, “romantic.” When Jacob saw Rachel, it was love at first sight. No one can deny that! Jacob was smitten with that first encounter. He immediately jumped into action. Even though Jacob was a homebody, Jacob was no wimp. He sheepremoved the heavy, great stone off the well and watered all Rachel’s sheep. Could Jacob have been showing off a little to impress Rachel?

“And while he yet spake with them, Rachel came with her father’s sheep: for she kept them. And it came to pass, when Jacob saw Rachel the daughter of Laban his mother’s brother, and the sheep of Laban his mother’s brother, that Jacob went near, and rolled the stone from the well’s mouth, and watered the flock of Laban his mother’s brother. And Jacob kissed Rachel, and lifted up his voice, and wept.” Genesis 29:9-11

The Hebrew meaning of “saw” is “to gaze upon.” Jacob literally could not Rachel and Jacobtake his eyes off of Rachel.

Just like the song, “When a Man Loves a Woman,” Jacob could not keep his mind on anything else. Notice Jacob’s reaction. He kissed Rachel and then wept loudly. Now, that is an unusual reaction when meeting a lady, wouldn’t you say? Why all the weeping?

Jacob’s family had sent him to find a wife amongst their relatives. In the preceding chapter, Jacob had just got right with God. Right after his experience with God, Jacob met beautiful Rachel. I think Jacob wept, because he was so overcome with joy at how God rewarded him with Rachel. He seemed to know that Rachel would be his future bride.

Our Engagement Photo 1978
Our Engagement Photo 1978

Last week, my husband shared with our Sunday School class how he and I met. Barry and I met at a Bible Study in college. I could tell Barry was interested in me, when I approached him to ask if the empty chair next to him was taken. Barry tells others, “In college, God rewarded me, when I got right with Him, by sending Linda into my life.” Aww!  Every time Barry says those words, I am humbled, because I know there have been times when I have not acted very much like a reward.

Pastor Warren wisely said that publicly acknowledging your love for your spouse is one way to safeguard your marriage from others.

It was quite clear to all the people that Jacob was head over heals about Rachel. We are to portray our love and attraction for our spouse to others, so they will say, “After all these years, those two are still crazy about each other.”

Jacob was smitten with Rachel. He talked to her father about marrying Rachel. Rachel’s father wanted Jacob to work for him for 7 years. Jacob labored for love. Jacob was willing to wait 7 years in order to marry the love of his life. Wow! Seven years is 2556.7 days!  This is the most beautiful part of their love story: “And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her.” Genesis 29:20

Those are some of the most romantic words ever penned.

Love~Something to think about: How do we talk about our spouse in front of others? Do others know we are still madly in love with our spouse? If we desire for our spouse to speak well of us in public, what changes in our marriage do we need to make?  “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” Proverbs 18:22

As we continue to read the Scriptures, we see that Rachel had Jacob’s love. Nevertheless, she was discontent and spiritually insensitive. How easy it is to become discontent when we are not walking close with the Lord!

  • Learn to get wisdom from daily reading God’s Word. Cry out to Him for His wisdom in your marriage.
  • Learn to bask in the living Presence of God. We can’t read the Bible all day, but our constant Companion is with us each step of the way.

marriage~Today, let us look around and count our blessings. After salvation, I hope we all list our husband as the #1 blessing from the Lord. Let us consider treating our husband as #1 blessing~ a priceless pursuit.

After all, your husband chose you out of all the others to be his bride.

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